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Step Study
Saturday 9:00 am
Holy Family Catholic Church
1100 East 5550 South
East Building
Contact : Jon T
Phone: (801) 682-0581
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Ogden, Ut

Sunday 9:00 am
UNI Building
501 Chipeta Way
(Research Park)
Meeting Room B
Contact : Suzanne M.
Phone: (801) 583-6855 
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Winds of Change
ACA and Dysfunction Workbook Meeting

Monday 6:30 to 8:00 pm
Alano Club
5056 S Commerce Dr (300 W)
(the meeting is on the ground level in the Card Room)
Contact:
Sharon B. 801-706-9612
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The Elephant in the Room
ACA and Dysfunction Textbook Meeting

Friday 6:30 to 8:00 pm
Genesis Bookstore
248 East 3900 South
(the meeting room is at the back of the bookstore--lighted parking lot)
Contact:
Karen S. 801-230-2914
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Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) is a 12-Step, 12-Tradition program of women and men who grew up in alcoholic or other dysfunctional homes. We meet with each other in a mutually respectful, safe environment and acknowledge our common experiences. We discover how childhood affected us in the past and influences us in the present. We take positive action - by practicing the 12 Steps, focusing on the solution and accepting a loving Higher Power of our understanding, we find freedom from the past and a way to improve our lives today.

 

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The Problem (Characteristics )

Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional households.

We had come to feel isolated, and uneasy with other people, especially authority figures. To protect ourselves, we became people pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process. All the same we would mistake any personal criticism as a threat.

We either became alcoholics ourselves, married them, or both. Failing that, we found other compulsive personalities, such as a workaholic, to fulfill our sick need for abandonment.

We lived live from the standpoint of victims. Having an over developed sense of responsibility, we preferred to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. We got guilt feelings when we trusted ourselves, giving in to others. We became reactors rather than actors, letting others take the initiative.

We were dependent personalities, terrified of abandonment, willing to do almost anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to be abandoned emotionally. We keep choosing insecure relationships because they matched our childhood relationship with alcoholic or dysfunctional parents.

These symptoms of the family disease of alcoholism or other dysfunction made us 'co-victims', those who take on the characteristics of the disease without necessarily ever taking a drink. We learned to keep our feelings down as children and keep them buried as adults. As a result of this conditioning, we often confused love with pity, tending to love those we could rescue.

Even more self-defeating, we became addicted to excitement in all our affairs, preferring constant upset to workable solutions.

This is a description, not an indictment.

Reprinted with permission of the Adult Children of Alcoholics Fellowship
The Twelve Steps of Adult Children of Alcoholics
1. We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. .
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to our selves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The Twelve Steps reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.