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Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step – Twelve Tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.

One of the resources we draw on is our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal bottom line addictive behavior on a daily basis. In addition, members reach out to others in the fellowship, practice the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. and seek a relationship with a higher power to counter the destructive consequences of one or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency, and sexual, social and emotional anorexia.

We find a common denominator in our obsessive, compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.

© 1997-2003 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.

40 Questions for Self Diagnosis

The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.

  • Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?
  • Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?
  • Do you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities?
  • Do you get "high" from sex and/or romance?
  • Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?
  • Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?
  • Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have sex with?
  • Do you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable?
  • Have you ever felt that you had to have sex?
  • Do you believe that someone can "fix" you?
  • Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had?
  • Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner?
  • Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you've had?
  • Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?
  • Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc?
  • Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?
  • Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix?
  • Do you feel that you're not "really alive" unless you are with your sexual / romantic partner?
  • Do you feel entitled to sex?
  • Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave?
  • Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?
  • Do you believe that the problems in your "love life" result from continuing to remain with the "wrong" person?
  • Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?
  • Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex?
  • Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to?
  • Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?
  • Do you have sex and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems?
  • Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?
  • Do you engage in the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc. in ways that bring discomfort and pain?
  • Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual or romantic activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level of physical and emotional relief?
  • Do you need to have sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real man" or a "real woman"?
  • Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door?
  • Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex?
  • Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?
  • Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time?
  • Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do?
  • Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness?
  • Do you feel that your sexual and/or romantic life affects your spiritual life in a negative way?
  • Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive dependency needs?
  • Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?

© 1998-2003 The Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.

The Twelve Steps of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

The Twelve Steps of Adult Children of Alcoholics

1. We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to our selves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry it out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The Twelve Steps reprinted for adaptation by permission of A.A. World Services, Inc.