Sunday
Solution Seekers Sunday 7:00 pm
Golden Living Center Back Dining Room
2011 West 4700 South
Contact: James B.
Phone: 801-359-4325 SLAA@utin.org Map
of 2011 W 4700 S
A New Freedom Thursdays 12:00 to 1:00 pm
First Presbyterian Church
12 C St. (and E. South Temple) Contact: Steven
Phone:(801) 674-4864
Closed Newcomer Meeting.
(Please refer to the group as "The St. Augustine Fellowship" when at the Church) Map of 12 C Street
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step -
Twelve Tradition oriented fellowship based on the model pioneered by
Alcoholics Anonymous.
One of the resources we draw on is our willingness to stop acting
out in our own personal bottom line addictive behavior on a daily basis.
In addition, members reach out to others in the fellowship, practice
the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. and seek a relationship
with a higher power to counter the destructive consequences of one
or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction,
dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency, and sexual,
social and emotional anorexia.
We find a common denominator in our obsessive,
compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual
or gender orientation irrelevant.
The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to
identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. They are
not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can
negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that
the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying
patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and
answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that
short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a
tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex
and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and
love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and
very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.
Yes
No
Have you ever tried
to control how much sex to have or how often you would see
someone?
Do you find yourself
unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know
that seeing this person is destructive to you?
Do you feel that
you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic
activities?
Do you get "high" from
sex and/or romance?
Have you had sex
at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with
inappropriate people?
Do you make promises
to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that
you find you cannot follow?
Have you had or
do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have
sex with?
Do you believe that
sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable?
Have you ever felt
that you had to have sex?
Do you believe that
someone can "fix" you?
Do you keep a list,
written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had?
Do you feel desperation
or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner?
Have you lost count
of the number of sexual partners you've had?
Do you feel desperate
about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?
Have you or do you
have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.. the threat of
being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS,
etc?
Do you find that
you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?
Do you feel that
your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability
to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix?
Do you feel that
you're not "really alive" unless you are with your
sexual / romantic partner?
Do you feel entitled
to sex?
Do you find yourself
in a relationship that you cannot leave?
Have you ever threatened
your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing
a sexual partner?
Do you believe that
the problems in your "love life" result from continuing
to remain with the "wrong" person?
Have you ever had
a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside
sexual activity?
Do you feel that
life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without
sex?
Do you find yourself
flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean
to?
Does your sexual
and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?
Do you have sex
and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape
from life's problems?
Do you feel uncomfortable
about your masturbation because of the frequency with which
you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you
use, and/or the places in which you do it?
Do you engage in
the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc. in ways that
bring discomfort and pain?
Do you find yourself
needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual
or romantic activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level
of physical and emotional relief?
Do you need to have
sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real
man" or a "real woman"?
Do you feel that
your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as
hijacking a revolving door?
Are you unable to
concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts
or feelings you are having about another person or about sex?
Do you find yourself
obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though
these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?
Have you ever wished
you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities
for a given period of time?
Do you find the
pain in your life increasing no matter what you do?
Do you feel that
you lack dignity and wholeness?
Do you feel that
your sexual and/or romantic life affects your spiritual life
in a negative way?
Do you feel that
your life is unmanageable because of your excessive dependency
needs?
Have you ever thought
that there might be more you could do with your life if you
were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?
We admitted
we were powerless over sex and love addiction - that our lives
had become unmanageable.
2.
Came to believe that
a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.
Made a decision
to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we
understand God. .
4.
Made a searching
and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.
Admitted to God,
to our selves, and to another human being the exact nature
of our wrongs.
6.
Were entirely ready
to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.
Humbly asked God
to remove our shortcomings.
8.
Made a list of all
persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to
them all.
9.
Made direct amends
to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would
injure them or others.
10.
Continued to take
personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted
it.
11.
Sought through prayer
and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as
we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will
for us and the power to carry it out.
12.
Having had a spiritual
awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry
this message to sex and love addicts, and to practice these
principles in all areas of our lives.
The
Twelve Steps reprinted for adaptation by permission of A.A. World Services,
Inc.
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